Metaphysical Mother Robin Alexis helps when birth doesn't go as planned
When Birth Doesn’t Go As Planned
Premature labor is very difficult. The mother’s body has not had time to release the appropriate hormones that make delivery easier. The concern for the welfare, the very life of your baby, is all-consuming. When you are experiencing a multiple birth, delivering under those circumstances can incredibly stressful. No matter how kind people are in your presence, at that moment you have a vulnerability and emotional pain that is excruciating. I know this because I am a mother who experienced them. My first pregnancy was with twins. They were born in 1978, before multiple births were a common phenomenon. The twins were born at 28 weeks gestation. Back in those days, the survival rate was very low.
I was lucky, the doctors said, that they were girls. The premature survival rate was higher among female infants.
Both girls became too weak to breathe on their own, and respirators were taped up their noses. If they survived the next 48 hours, I was told, my opportunity to be a mother increased dramatically. I was sent home empty handed. I believe being sent home without your baby, (or in this case babies), from the hospital following their birth is a form of hell. I felt like the worst mother in the world. What had I done wrong to create this? The only way I could help the babies was to pump my breast milk for some time in the future. First, when they were stable enough, tubes would be placed in their noses and they would be given the milk through a doll-sized syringe. Then, when they could handle it, a doll-sized bottle would be used until I was be able to breast-feed them.
When one of nurses told me that I had hand pumped enough milk to feed the entire group of babies in the intensive care nursery my feelings were very hurt. Having lots of breast milk made me feel like I was doing something right as a woman and a mother. I felt embarrassed that I was even doing that wrong.
All my time and money was spent organizing the three-hour trips back and forth to the hospital where my babies had been sent to for their special care needs. Donning smocks and sterilizing my hands, I was encouraged to touch the girls underneath all the wires in their incubators. Research had proven that preemies needed touch to live.
My heart broke a little more each time I stepped into the neonatal unit. My concern for my children’s’ safety was unbearable. Each twin had been placed in a crib-like apparatus warmed by radiant heat and connected to a respirator. A tube in the umbilicus (belly button) gave them nourishment and enabled the nurses to draw blood samples every half hour to check the amount of oxygen in the blood, so brain damage wouldn’t occur. Two small sensors were taped to their bodies and connected by wires to monitors that showed their heart and breathing rates. If the rate slowed or sped up, an alarm went off.
The look of their fragile hands holding my finger haunts me to this day. When the girls were four days old, I was caressing my daughter's tiny legs when she turned her head and looked me right in the eyes. I have never felt closer to a human being in my life. She died 3 days later. My other daughter is now 30 years old, married to a wonderful husband and together they lovingly raise my grandson. I also have a sensitive, responsible and kind 28 year old son. I am so blessed.
I miss my deceased daughter to this day. I mourn the dream of watching her grow up and mature. I mourn the dream of having been her mother. My deceased daughter's gift to me was to make me aware that there are other women and mothers out there who grief the loss of their children. Because I personally know and understand this pain, I can share my insights and feelings with you. If your Higher Self discerns it is in your best and highest good, I welcome you to please visit my web site www.robinalexis.com. Listen to my radio show, MYSTIC RADIO with Robin Alexis, for your free live on air spiritual healings & psychic readings. I will do my best to answer your metaphysical mothering questions on my radio show.
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Robin Alexis is a Spiritual Empowerment Coach. Her goal is to Empower people to recognize, understand and treasure their soul’s wisdom. The author of Raising Humanity and Robin’s Song: Treasure Your Soul’s Wisdom, Robin is the founder of Metaphysical Mothering™. She specializes in the karmic connection between parents and their unborn children. As a paranormal fertility expert, she teaches women who need help conceiving, how to nurture and empower themselves. She also speaks to babies who are in the womb or who are newborns. She has appeared on many National Radio and Television programs and has her own radio program in Seattle Washington. "Mystic Radio with Robin Alexis" can be heard on Alternative Talk-AM 1150-KKNW and the Internet at: www.1150kknw.com on Wednesdays 1pm PM (Pacific Time)
Her website is: www.RobinAlexis.com